Enough Is Enough! I'm Going Natural
by Christina J
Natural Hair Journey 2007 - 2012
“My hair will never grow nor be healthy ever again! I give up!!!” This was me back in 2007; I did not know what to do with my messed-up hair. I had always gone to the beauty shop to get my hair done, so I was neither taught nor had I learned how to care for it. I had burns and countless damage from being relaxed, done by a “professional” stylist. I had heat damage and split ends from all the times I would straighten my own hair, nearly every day, with no heat protectant AND sometimes dirty. My hair was greatly uneven due to the myth that “if you cut your hair, it will never grow back.” Crying myself to sleep every night, I was at a loss. I gave up on my hair…
So the year 2009 rolls around thinking I could never do anything with my jagged tresses, I began to get Senegalese twists and full sew-ins. I would keep each style for at least 8-10 weeks with 2 days of rest for my hair, then another long term style. Still naïve, I noticed some growth around May 2010.
My hair had finally reached neck length! I was so excited…so what did I do? I decided to get my hair permed once again AND colored caramel-blonde…by the same stylist who gave me the relaxer back in 2007. Yea, I should have known that this would not come out right. Double-processed hair in the same sitting is a big NO-NO, but I did not know that at the time (the stylist should have known!) And there I was AGAIN, crying myself to sleep because of my damaged and broken hair.
On April 1, 2012, I had an epiphany! “What if I just learn how to care for my own hair?” I decided not to get any more relaxers nor color touch ups ever again. I did not have the courage to big chop and my family was surely against it; so, I tapered the back of my hair with 3 inches of relaxer left on the top and decided to transition. I did a lot of roller sets and faux hawks during this time.
On October 1, 2012, I trimmed the last of the relaxed hairs off and looked at myself in the mirror…wow…I’m natural! Now I’m on the right track for my hair journey! I danced and danced for a long time; I was so proud of myself for getting through all the hurt, pain, and agony from 2007 to 2012. This was the beginning of my healthy-natural hair journey.
Since that day, I have kept a hair journal full of everything hair related: from the gorgeous hair styles to the duds. I also kept product reviews with regimens I have tried, what products worked, what did not, and what to try next time. I have even recorded many “kitchenista-recipes” for my own products and hair care. I have hair crushes and hair gurus I follow for natural hair tips and styles to try (MsVaughnTV, Blakizbeautyful, Alicia James, MahoganyCurls, etc.)
To this day, this journal is what I lean on and trust to continue to perfect the products I use, the regimens I follow, and the styles to try. I was also inspired to have my blog, Desire My Natural to document more of my journey (and I was running out of data on my iPad). I am so happy to have this blog!
Now I am 2 years natural with my hair an inch from APL with the ultimate goal of reaching my waist!! I am so proud that I have encouraged myself with all the support from others.
Wherever you are in your hair journey, love yourself continuously. Do this for you and only you. I now know how to care for my hair, but more so, I keep a positive attitude about myself and my luscious mane. Be patient and positive about your hair.